Corporate world and soft skills training teaches us the importance of feedback. Using this learning, I asked my 5 year old what he disliked about me the most.
He responded spontaneously, “when you and mother argue about something”.
I asked him again if there was anything else he disliked about me, he responded, “when you scold me and it’s not my fault, that makes me angry”.
I asked again but there was nothing else he disliked about me. I appreciated and thanked him for his responses.
Before taking this feedback, I was expecting a complaint about my busyness; that I was unable to play and spend enough time with him but that did not come out to be an issue. He somehow, at this age, understood my time limitations. He only complained about my negative emotions, which were in my hands, which I could change.
My wife and I hardly argue and I scold my son extremely rarely but still, these had the biggest negative impact on his life. I cannot even begin to imagine how badly those children’s brains are affected, whose parents argue/fight regularly or who scold their children just because they can.
I encourage you all to take feedback from your children. Ask them what they dislike the most about you? This should not lead to discussing the answers or clarifying your position. Just take the feedback and ponder over it in your spare time.
Let me and everyone know what you found out, we might find a pattern that can help us all.
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