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Impact of Your Negative Emotions on Your Children

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Corporate world and soft skills training teaches us the importance of feedback. Using this learning, I asked my 5 year old what he disliked about me the most.

He responded spontaneously, “when you and mother argue about something”.

I asked him again if there was anything else he disliked about me, he responded, “when you scold me and it’s not my fault, that makes me angry”.

I asked again but there was nothing else he disliked about me. I appreciated and thanked him for his responses.

Before taking this feedback, I was expecting a complaint about my busyness; that I was unable to play and spend enough time with him but that did not come out to be an issue. He somehow, at this age, understood my time limitations. He only complained about my negative emotions, which were in my hands, which I could change.

My wife and I hardly argue and I scold my son extremely rarely but still, these had the biggest negative impact on his life. I cannot even begin to imagine how badly those children’s brains are affected, whose parents argue/fight regularly or who scold their children just because they can.

I encourage you all to take feedback from your children. Ask them what they dislike the most about you? This should not lead to discussing the answers or clarifying your position. Just take the feedback and ponder over it in your spare time.

Let me and everyone know what you found out, we might find a pattern that can help us all.

#feedback #negativeemotions #selfawareness #selfimprovement #children #childsafety #childhoodtrauma #childcare #change

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About the Speaker(s)/Author(s):
Nauman Khan is a software engineer from Multan, Pakistan. He is the founder of The Clear Evidence initiative, urShadow’s Blog, which is ranked among the top 30 blogs for Saudi Arabia and one of the largest Facebook groups in Saudi Arabia.
He completed his schooling from Multan and then completed his engineering from Islamabad, Pakistan. Since then he has been working in the technology domain for the leading corporations in the telecommunication industry in the Middle East region.
He developed his first website in 2000 with a section on Islam. In 2008, he launched urShadow’s Blog with Come to Islam section, which has over 1,400 posts. In 2019, he launched The Clear Evidence initiative.
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  6. Nauman Khan says

    Junaid Rafiq commented on WhatsApp: “Beautiful ! Jzkk
    Very useful, I think first comment would be common across almost all and it shows the importance of strong loving and friendly relations between spouses.”

    Reply

  7. Nauman Khan says

    Mushtaq Ahmad commented on WhatsApp: “و علیکم السلام و رحمۃ اللہ و برکاتہ
    ماشاءاللہ تبارک اللہ
    Very good idea of taking feed back for self awareness and self improvement. I will do that ان شاءاللہ۔”

    Reply

  14. Nauman Khan says

    Salman Ahmed commented on WhatsApp: “Nice one,
    If u could develop a questionnaire or survey form.
    It may be more comprehensive.. Yes later on u can add remedies too..”

    Reply

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